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Centuries old Wedding traditions and wonderful Philippine customs make Filipina Weddings (Kasalan) some of the most beautiful wondrous celebrations on earth. The Filipino culture’s high regard for the sanctity of Marriage has given the Philippine Wedding Ceremony many customs and traditions that will be new to Americans.
In the traditional Filipina Wedding the groom is expected to burden all of the cost as opposed to American traditions were it is the Bride’s family that is responsible for wedding expenses. This has given way slightly to some couples sharing the cost as some couples now do in the United States. A few costs that will seem unexpected to Americans but are in keeping with Filipino Wedding traditions are:
Hotel rooms for valued guest that journey from distant islands to attend your Wedding. In my case it was the VIPs such as my Filipino wife’s eldest brother and her Maid of honor.
Transportation for all those who are to attend locally. We rented a large “Power Cruiser” (Bus) or what would be a fully customized bus complete with sound system and custom paint.
Bride’s Maids dresses and Barongs for the groom’s men are usually available for rent at the Wedding boutiques. Unlike in the US where many of the Bride’s maids will purchase their own dress to keep after the Wedding, in the Philippines some will not be able to afford the expense and instead opt to rent them.
A Filipina bride wears her wedding ring on the right hand and not the left as in the United States. For the Filipina, the Bible has stated “the Son sits at the right hand of the Father”. So she will sit on the left and wear her ring on the right. This tradition completely blindsided me as I had already presented my fiance with a beautiful engagement set and placed it on her left ring finger. Just 4 days before the wedding she explained to me I would need to buy her a wedding ring now for her right hand.
In most Asian countries it is customary for young people to remain at home until they are married and often a newlywed couple will live with one set of parents for awhile after they are married.
Japanese and Korean individuals usually do not begin dating until they are in college.
In China, dating usually does not begin until an individual is in their twenties. Chinese singles usually only date one or two people before they get married. There are also still instances of arranged marriages. It's important to understand the difference between how men and women are raised in traditional Asian society, because it can affect your dating experience.
* Women are raised to be respectful of men and to defer to them in most matters. The woman's job in the relationship is to take care of the man's daily needs.
* Men are traditionally raised to be providers and to protect the women in their family. They will naturally take the lead in a relationship.
Family ties run deeply within Asian families, and even Americanized single Asians still get a lot of input on their dating partners from well-meaning parents. This means that when you date an Asian, you will likely be dating his or her parents to a certain extent. Expect to be thoroughly scrutinized, although it will be done respectfully. Parents want to be sure the person their child is dating is safe and suitable.
For your part, be sure to show respect for the feelings of your date's parents. This will assure them of your honorable intentions toward their child and will help smooth the path for further relationship development in case the two of you hit it off. I